We Accept The Life We Think We Deserve

This blog post might be a little short but I just finished doing a small workout, with the purpose of working out my abs, arms and back.

However I must have worked out my mind because during the workout I found myself speaking some of the most profound words I have ever said to myself and those words were… I want this life, I deserve this life.

Earlier in the day when getting ready I had been thinking about how often it is said ‘We accept the love we think we deserve’ and how that quote is too cryptic for those that actually need to hear the depth of it.

Often times when people come across the message they’re already in their heartbroken phase of life. I thought about how if someone were to clarify the depth of it with…

‘We accept the love we think we deserve, meaning we settle and dream for the love and the person we think we deserve, not realising the love and person we are settling for is often from the part of our unhealed fragmented selves.’

We then might realise the version of that person and love isn’t what we actually deserve especially once we are healed.

Going back to my own epiphany while working out, it hit me for the first time. The message resonated with me about my own life, and how we accept the life we think we deserve.

For the longest time I wanted to change my world around. I would work towards doing so, but internally I didn’t believe I deserved to have the life I was after. And this thought would hit me from time to time, but it didn’t really connect with me…until today during my workout.

Yesterday I spent hours writing my own personal manifesto and how I want to move forward in my life, I call it the Next Chapter: Becoming A Modern Roman. This should encapsulate my entire life moving forward until it eventually becomes second nature.

I’ll write more about what becoming a modern roman means to me in another blog post, but just know it deeply resonates with me and I believe it will become one of the greatest things I have ever done for myself.

I want whats coming next and I deserve it.

Another Mental Exercise To Add To Your Toolbox

So, how do we know when we are accepting the life and love we think we deserve even though we want better?

The best thing we can do is listen to our thoughts in the moment of self doubt and then redirect them.

It often looks like this.

First we tell ourselves: I really want to become a better version of myself. I want to eat healthy. I want to leave this crappy relationship behind. 

Second: The action is often started. We find  ourselves putting in the work, until the third part hits us. 

The Third Part: This is where we often find ourselves with contradicting thoughts such as…

Who do I think I am to be trying for this?

or

The things I want don’t happen to people like me. That is another life for someone else.

This is when we should be taking note because subconsciously we often fall trap to those thoughts.

We begin to fall back into the world we are trying to leave behind because our internal belief system is telling us how we really think about ourselves.

Taking note is the fourth step to changing our internal belief system.

The fifth step is finding out where those thoughts come from and why. Often you’ll find them connected to an unhealed younger version of yourself.

Once you know when and why these contradictive thoughts happen only then can you begin the process of replacing them with a new internal belief system of thoughts. The kind that support the person you want to become and the life you want for yourself.